About Helen

Welcome – Im Helen and This is Be Deliciously Free

Hi Welcome To My Blog – Be Deliciously Free

I named this blog and my brand after a Favourite perfume,  DKNY Be Delicious and yes- if you like Light Gorgeous perfumes, that people will turn around as you walk past them, then go buy it 🙂

I’ve recently altered my brand, from Be Deliciously Abundant to Be Deliciously Free.  You see a few things have happened, I have recently been through an interesting journey, and like a caterpillar I’ve changed, I’ve metarmorphazed into Be Deliciously Free, and Im here to show you how you can too Continue Reading

Inspirational Stories

I Really don’t like myself very much | Neither did I

Omg how I relate to this, not so much now, but in my younger years.

Maybe like me, you look at a photo of yourself and cringe ‘OMG What do I look like?” once again, you’re not alone, we have all been there, are there.

In fact Im blown away by how many women do not see how amazingly gorgeous they are. Gorgeous, stunning friends of mine, that I look at and think ‘omg you look just like Sandra Bullock’ (yes I really do have a friend who reminds me so much of her)

That was so me, in my youth and indeed until Not so very long ago !! Eeek

I grew up, the youngest of 3 girls. We were all about 2 years apart, but I felt and looked about 10 years younger.

I felt like such a stranger in my own home, I have no idea why.  Oh yes, I used to get a different present to them at xmas. They would get the same (how boring I think now) and I would get something different and like all kids, I just wanted to blend in, be the same.

I was a very timid young woman. The last to get my boobs, my period even a boyfriend. Well knowing what I know now, ie that when you actually tell people how you’re feeling, you realise ‘OMG you feel like that too’.. so in retrospect, I probably wasn’t the last, however back in the 70’s I felt like I was.

I can’t remember when it happened, but I started to get into Personal Development.  I remember getting the Secret out of the library and then immediately buying the book AND the film and watching it again and again.

However, long before that my confidence started to grow.
I left the UK on a whim.  I had taken the plunge and moved from S Wales, up to London – to seek my fortune !! test my wings, find myself..

Then a couple of years into my living in London, I met a Kiwi (guy from New Zealand) and to cut a very long story short, he had to return to New Zealand. Despite my plans to go to Canada as a nanny, i found myself saying ‘Ill come with you’.. and that was that.

It wasn’t all plain sailing however. Whilst he was a lovely man, after planning our trip to New Zealand, trip booked and paid for, our relationship, at this stage about 18 months,  started to crumble… however we decided to still do the trip.

Why am I sharing this? Because stepping outside of my comfort zone, was the making of me and it Can be for you too.

Whether thats moving to another town, across the world, going to ‘that party’ on your own will only do one thing – empower you. Even if things go wrong, as they have with me.  I checked into an awful but ‘cheap’ hostel in Melbourne a few years ago, could not get myself out quick enough – walked across town, pulling my ‘far too big/heavy  for travelling’ suitcase, and found another hostel where I had a blast!!

I had come to Melbourne, to do the Great Ocean Road and yet I had no one to do it with..

‘OMG,  I can’t do it’. I told myself

Bearing in mind, I was probably one of the oldest women around, surrounded by these young men and women in their 20’s.  I asked around and everyone had done it, so I started to rack my brain, with the thought coming to me

‘Helen, get a grip you’ve come here to Do this trip, just do it’

So I  perused the internet and found myself a lovely little trip on a mini bus, starting at 7am in the morning, returning at 11pm.. booked it…

OMG I was soo freakin’ excited !!

 

 

Me Feeling Soo good at our First stop on the Great Ocean Road, one of the best things I ever did

Doing things like this, learning to laugh at my mistakes has made me the person I am today.
And No, I can absolutely tell you, Im not always confident. 

So start by asking yourself ‘what have I achieved’ and ‘how amazing am I’

Because You are.

 

I  shared this video several years ago, just had to share it again

Read empowering books, Pam Grout, Jen Sincero, Rhonda Byrne.. they are all amazing women and amazing books.

Honestly guys, its taken me ‘years’ to love and accept myself.  Im not quite there, I still have areas I don’t like. However I chose to focus on what I do.

My hair, my teeth, my eyes, my smile, my arms, my tops half (ha ha ).

My legs, my daughter recently said to me ‘Mum you have lovely legs for your age’ ha ha I laughed but thought I’ll take it !! 🙂

I absolutely Love this scene…
look at this guy, he is gorgeous and yet he doubts himself

 

 

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With Love always 

Helen aka Be Deliciously Free

 

 

 

Interviews With

Its As Easy To Manifest A House as It Is A Button | with Rui

When I asked Rui to be one of my guests – I did not expect to hear this story…Its As Easy To Manifest A House as It Is A Button

 

Its as easy to Manifest a House as it is a Button

Rui shares this incredible story, that I have not heard before… Its An Absolutely incredible story…..

I have met Rui several times, I just Love him, aside from the Fact, He is A Huge Giver……

(He shares more about this in his interview),he’s Also a Very down to earth, humble guy, you’ll get that in the interview too…

Hes  a Big Family Man,  you only have to look at his Facebook page to see that…

However this story blew me away – Watch the WHOLE video – Its worth it…

 Its As Easy To Manifest a House as it is a Button

 

Wasn’t that Amazing….

Worth listening to Every minute – incredible story…

Not sure if you could tell by my face, however half the time I was just “This Can’t BE True – OMG’….

Here is that house….

Melissa and Rui Enjoying their house ..

I hope you enjoyed my interview this week

I am Still blown away by Rui’s Story….Are You?

So Off you go – and manifest….. Its As Easy To Manifest A House as It Is A Button

Please leave me your comments…

http://bit.ly/BeDeliciouslyFreewithHelen Me with Rui and Melissa

So there you go, another amazing Law of Attraction story, watch out for my interview with Melissa.. who was a big factor in this story..

 

Helen

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My stories

What To do when Anxiety Hits

One thing I have learnt over my lifetimes, is that we are never alone.

Not with our problems – everyone has been through, is going through or is about to go through what we are going through, right now in this very minute.

That made me feel so much better, I hope it has  you 🙂

When I started to share my story, or various stories, from miscarriage to grief, I realised how many other people had gone through what I had gone through and realised, ‘OMG Im not alone’. I know how alone we feel when going through these things, so Im here to tell you , You are not.

How To Deal with Anxiety

So today we’re talking about anxiety, the awful feeling when;

  • your heart feels like its about to burst out of your chest
  • You’re getting these awful feelings through your body and you think you’re about to die
  • You wakeup in a cold or hot sweat and 3 in the morning and you honestly want the bed/floor or whatever to swallow you up.
  • You feel like everyone is looking at you, and you don’t want to move..Sound familiar?

I have been through this many times. Fortunately I don’t anymore… Do you know why?
I have started to face my fears.

Many years ago, I was bullied at work. I went through hell on earth.

  • One of my sisters died suddenly, we were estranged
  • 6 weeks later, my job was disestablished.
  • I applied for and was given a new job I wasn’t in the right space for (I was still grieving)
  • I developed some health issues, associated with my sister’s sudden passing
  • They started to find fault with Everything, yes Everything I did at work.

This went on for a year… yes a solid year of rushing off to the hospital, thinking I was dying every few months. Sitting on my bed at 700am  in the morning, curled up in the foetal position, not being able to eat or drink and losing about 2 stone in weight, shaking with terror at the thought of Another day of this…

The worst thing was, I felt I had very little power over any of it. And Yet the power was all mine.

To cut a very long story short. I took back my power at the end of the year, and have never looked back since.

I started to IMMERSE myself in Personal Development

So to answer that question that I know your asking

How did I deal with the anxiety.

Me having got over myself and climbed to the top.. OMG at times it was scary but boy did I feel good 🙂

I talked to myself.

Just like a couple of years ago, on walking on a very steep cliff,  realising that I have a fear of heights, yet even though I’ve done a bungee and a sky dive, I still get scared of heights.
However, I talk to myself.

We have so much more Power over ourselves than we realise.

‘You can do this’
‘Boy this is a piece of cake, compared to what you”ve been through’
‘think how you’re doing to feel when you overcome it’
‘Your Amazing’

 

Ask yourself, whats the worse thing that can happen, and what will I do when that happens.
Faster EFT… check out Robert G Smith on Youtube. Im not a licensed practitioner but I know it works

 

I can tell you with confidence, I haven’t had anxiety for many years now.  I’ve faced my fears, I still have some, however each time I face them.

I journal every day
I walk every day
I focus on gratitude
I talk to myself

I talk to others, in confidence about my fears.

Most of all, I work on me every single day…

Turn off the news,  take myself out for walks, read empowering books, Jen Sincero, Pam Grout, Wayne Dyer, the list is endless.. Go and google any of those names and you’ll find amazing uplifting content. Plus you can go to my Youtube channel for help too.

And yes, I have at times in the past, taken medication to help me… however no longer. Its totally your ‘thing’ if you want to take something, however for me, the side effects, far out way the positives, so I chose to do it myself and I’ve proven I can. You can too, if you want to

For more info, help on getting through anxiety, come talk to me, Im hear to help

 

What To do when Anxiety Hits | Be Deliciously Free

Self Love

You Are Loved | Most Sincerely

Yes, you Are, Loved, Most Sincerely.  Even if you don’t love yourself, Yet.  When you can love yourself, will you truly feel the love of others around you.

Its been a kind of tough week.

Two people, I didn’t know, but knew Of, passed away.

One from a long fought battle,  with cancer, and the other from another long fought battle, with depression.

Both way too young to die.

I saw amazing tributes to both of them.  They were both courageous, funny, talented men.

One knew it, he shared value and loved life,  and one like many of us didn’t realise his greatness.

Then I see a friend comment that ‘people don’t give a damn’.. something I have to disagree with.

I know where they’re coming from. It would seem that way sometimes. However I know it not to be the case.

I’ve been through losses, divorce, bereavement and I’ve had people cross the road, rather than say ‘Im so sorry’… i’ve also had people go and look out the window, rather than say ‘Im so sorry’.

I’ve had people send me texts, rather than actually knock on the door and give me that hug.

I’ve also been through depression, when I was young and then older too. Mine is/was ‘reactive’,( ie I react to things. A relationship break up, my marriage break up and then my fur baby dying)

I’ve been bullied and curled up on my bed, with anxiety, and a friend drop by at 7.30 with chocolates and a movie.

I don’t share all this, for your pity, I share it to show you, Im not talking hot air.

I remember meeting an acquaintance many years ago. A mutual acquaintance was dying. I asked them

‘have you been to see them’?
‘No’ they responded – however they would go to the funeral. WTF

This wasn’t because they didn’t give a damn. They just didn’t know how to handle going to see someone who was about to die.

One of the men I talked about earlier on,  shared value regularly. He even did this in the last month before he died. He looked dreadful and it was so hard to watch. However he did it, because he cared more about the value he was sharing than what he looked like.

He wanted to help people right until the end.I know people care, they just don’t know how to show it sometimes.

I lost my fur  baby, about four years ago now. I was absolutely devastated. Someone said to me ‘what do you miss most’ I said after a little thought ‘unconditional love’… then give that to yourself, they said.

Thats what we are ALL missing. That unconditional love for ourselves.

When you love yourself, you are much more able to reach out to others, give compliments, give hugs. Not take things personally.

So know that people do care. They just don’t know how to show it sometimes. People are unable to get over themselves, see that its not about ‘them’ its about the person who is suffering.

How about you start caring for yourself.

Work On You.
I’ve been working on me for years. I grew up, very timid, low self esteem. Wouldn’t say boo to a ghost. In fact, I found it hilarious later in life. People would say ‘Helen, you’re so aloof’

I wasn’t ‘Aloof’ at all, I was painfully shy and would at all costs, avoid eye contact.

However, since starting to work on me, everything has changed.

Someone said recently to me,

‘I Love your Lives, its as if your my mother telling me what I wish she’d said to me’

and thats just it. We have to give our Inner child the love, the encouragement, the support, that perhaps we were not given when we were young. Our parents, were doing the best they could with what they had…

My lives are on my Facebook page, Ill start doing them at a certain time so you can catch me !!

 

this was me about 12 maybe older, trying Sooo hard 🙂

I know its not easy, you have to give yourself time out. Half an hour to read a book, or down at the beach, or take yourself on a date.

Be Good to You. Talk Kindly  to yourself, Tell Yourself Amazing you are.

I found this some time ago, I’ll share again here.

I am Enough
I am Worthy
I am Valuable
I am Beautiful
I am Powerful

Turn off the news, you can’t change anything thats happened. Decide to do something yourself to make a difference.

Go hug that person, send a card, whatever feels right for you !!

In fact, go look up the Good News Network. 

I refuse to watch the news, I’ll give to charity and Ill buy a homeless man a drink and some food. I won’t gossip and Ill give praise and constructive feedback when needed.

I focus on the good. When I do get down, and yes, we all do. I focus on what I have to be grateful for.

A Nice warm bed.
A Hot shower
Money in my pocket.
I know its not as easy as that.

When I lost my fur baby, I started to go down a really bad dark hole. She had been there for me through everything. Without her, everything came up to the surface, and it was like a torrent that I couldn’t handle.

As a last resort, I went to the doctor and said ‘Give me tablets’. I took those tablets for One day, they made me feel so bad. Even thought friends and the doctor said ‘You’ll feel worse before you feel better, I was not willing to feel even worse’ .. Each to their own, if they work for you, then thats fine, they are just not my ‘bag’.

I decided I would do it myself. So I took myself out in nature, focussing on gratitude, I journaled. I did everything I didn’t want to do. I MADE myself go out and see friends.

I have been through some of the SH***** times, believe me. However, I have gotten myself out to them and Im stronger and wiser for it.

I work on Me Continually.  I take myself to the beach, I write, I work on gratitude. I give love to others.

Remember You’ve got this and remember, a wonderful quote from Winnie the Pooh.

Oh and before I go, let me share with you, something wonderful someone did for me. Tessa, had just lost her husband, however she reached out to me when I’d lost my fur baby and shared something wonderful with me

Send 7 cards over 7 days to 7 people telling them how much they mean to you.
It worked, I felt so good at the end of it.

So Remember You Are Loved, With Sincerity.

Helen
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Inspirational Stories

You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

I hear so many women..talk ‘trash’ about themselves…. do you realise this? Are you aware of it? Would you talk the same way to your best friend?  Do you realise You are So Much Better than you think you are?

Don’t get me wrong,  I can totally relate

that was me…

I grew up, a very shy, introverted, young woman lacking confidence…

however I did have Drive… and had Ambition and I knew what I wanted..

I didn’t do very well at school, which wasn’t easy for me… having two elder sisters who were doing well

You Are So Much Better Than You Think You Are
Me age about 28.. not realising how amazing I was..

However, I knew from the relatively early age, I wanted to be a Nurse.. it was in my blood..

…I told Everyone about it – I didn’t realise back then I was basically ‘Talking My world Into Existence

As I said, i wasn’t doing very well, I didn’t like school...however I knew what I wanted to be…

You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

 

Im the one on the left with the swimming cap on…

I didn’t feel bright, I didn’t feel pretty (yes I know now I was)

…I didn’t feel “cool’…

I was Petrified of boys..

So All In All I wasn’t a ‘Popular Girl’

….However I knew I wanted to be a nurse, so I was Focussed on that

and I KNEW I needed Biology

Long and short…

…I flunked school…

I remember a horrendous day..

I had this wonderful friend of mine Angela.. at school.. she stuck by me when I was bullied

She was always there for me.. and I would try and be there for her..

I would ‘drag’ her to the library to study…

However, she didn’t ‘need’ that.. she was One of those people, that despite not seeming to do any work

…. She Absolutely Flew through her exams.. I on the other hand crashed and burnt…

I did manage to get what I needed.. English and Biology

I was Again Amazed when I got into Nursing !!

Years passed by… I had my goals, to Be a Nurse and to have babies…

About 10 years ago.. I was talking to a Coach of mine…

Still not feeling very confident..

My Coach asked me

So What Have you Achieved Helen? I was about to really surprise myself

I sat there thinking ‘Well I wanted to be a nurse,  and I achieved that

I also wanted to learn to drive.. I achieved that too, First time I passed my driving test’

… I started to Smile..

‘I wanted to have children, I’ve had a girl and a boy, I always wanted one of each ‘….

My excitement was starting to grow now, ‘and I have travelled much of the world’.. I always wanted to travel !!

My Whole attitude changed… OMG I have Achieved Everything I ever wanted to..

That day was to Change My Whole Life, I was never to Feel I hadn’t achieved anything ever Again. It also told me That I COULD achieve anything I set my heart to..

Remember People You are SO Much Better Than You Think You Are Ask Yourselves ‘So What HAVE I achieved’…

With Love

Always here to help You…

Helen

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PS: The Photo above? I didn’t know how Amazing I was..and Boy don’t I look hot !! 🙂 (Yes I AM allowed to say it – as Are You xx)

 

Inspirational Stories

If I die doing something I love, then Im Happy

If I die, doing something I love, then Im happy. My Dad..

this was something he always said… mostly as he got older and continued pushing the boundaries…

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’… I like them… in fact Im thinking of my next one… I learnt something from my dad – he was still doing Paragliding in his 70’s…

My dad taught me so much growing up, how to treat people, how not to treat people.

He made me work for everything when I was young, nothing was given to me on a plate.

That stayed with me ,I’ve done a bungee and a ski dive..and people will say 

‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’… and you can’t..

There are no guarantees in Life… You can go tomorrow – crossing the road… You can drop down dead tomorrow… ( sorry, however it IS the case) I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence…

In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

I have done some terrifying things in my life, spontaneously moving to New Zealand in my last 20’s.  Arriving there, rowing with the man I loved and having to find myself a job and accomdation.
Booking myself into some horrendous accomodation in Melbourne, and finding something PDQ and walking across town the next day to find a better place !! Its hilarious, and fun and has made me stronger and wiser !!

My dad
So back to this article,

Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down.

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience,

Passion, and Dedication come easily only when you love what you do. It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions….

…and yet most of us, if not ALL of us have been there… Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend. Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy.
Most of all, don’t procrastinate.
Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

You can read more here… http://www.thinkinghumanity.com/2016/06/powerful-advice-from-a-dying-man.html So Live your Life..
LOVE your Life… Its for Living Its For Loving…Accept Yourself,  Be YOU Be Deliciously Free 🙂 

 

x Helen


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Self Love

Whats Wrong With Me? | Absolutely Nothing

So  in answer to that question, Whats Wrong With Me?, Absolutely Nothing.  There is Absolutely  Nothing wrong with you.

However, in the spirit of full and brutal honesty – I have thought it myself.

I have been single for ‘years’ and I mean ‘years’…

However, back to you – thinking ‘whats wrong with me’ will keep any Mr or Mrs Right away from you, I can promise you. Whatever questions you are yourself, you Will get answers.

So instead keep asking ‘Whats Right with me’ and you’ll keep getting great answers.

Whats Wrong with me

Having found several gorgeous men and having had partners on and off since I was about 20.. until the age of 42. My ex husband and longest term partner, was a, lovely lovely man and still is, he just wasn’t right for me.  I then fell for what I thought was ‘the grass was greener’ someone who ‘seemed’ the epitome of a gentlemen, who turned out to be a Sheep in wolfs clothing.

My heart was truly trampled on, and I can tell you a various stages in this time I really did think ‘whats wrong with me’..

I tried all sorts of dating, Table for six, Speed dating, Internet dating, you name it.

Once again I met some lovely men, and some not so lovely men. The one who sat there with ONE seat and let me go off and get my own!! Or the one who after I bought the first round, we just sat there with no drinks in front of us, as the waitress cleared our empty glasses.  Now to be kind to men, I realise its not always easy meeting someone for the first time, but seriously how hard is it to Buy a drink?

After these various attempts at dating – I have given it all a Wide birth for the last several years. I have instead worked on me!! and I can categorically say now I Love me. Not in the arragant sense of the word. However, people would definitely call me ‘confident’ these days. Thats not to say that I think every man is going to fall at my feet. Not at all.  Well the fact that they haven’t tells me that.. Gulp.

Believe In Yourself and The World Will too

However, I also know that the one constant in all this, is ME. So whilst I don’t blame myself.. I do sometimes think ‘whats wrong with me’. But this is where my better half aka my better self steps up and says ‘Hey Helen, how about Whats right with me’…

I know whats right with me. I’m kind, warm caring, loving, sensitive, strong, independent.. I could go on, but I won’t. Because at the end of the day – I know I have plenty thats right with me.

I shared this live on Facebook – you can check it out here,

Being confident about yourself, accepting your attributes and knowing  that none of us are perfect, , will absolutely put you in the absolutely best frame of mind to attract that Mr Right, or Mrs.

So how do you find your Mr or Mrs Right

Join Clubs, think of the hobbies you have and go out there and join the clubs.
At the gym, walking, at the cinema.
Start conversations. I read somewhere the other day, how a lady met her husband simply by asking him ‘whats the time please’.

If you haven’t, do try all the ones I’ve mentioned above. Speed dating, internet dating, dinner dates ie Table for 6 or 12 or whatever they offer.

He or She is out there and the more you actually Enjoy Life.. ie just be yourself, get out there, Love and accept yourself. You will meet him or Her… when you least expect  it..

So in the meantime, work on you.  Start Loving you, accentuate your positives,
Accept You are You, wonderful, Strong and Amazing
Wear what you love, what makes you comfortable, whatever makes YOU feel 100 Bucks or even a Million. For me its a bit of lippy, mascara and perfume…

 

Keep me posted, and Ill do the same about me!!

 

With Love

 

Helen

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Self Love

I am Enough | I am EnoughI came across this video yesterday on Facebook, I am Enough, You are Enough by Marisa Peer…

Its very powerful..I have discovered in just how much we ALL need to realise We Are Enough.

I am Enough, You are Enough

How important self talk is, what we tell ourselves,  we believe, or even the way others have spoken to you. So much truth in this, its something I feel Sooo passionate about – as I felt so much of my life feeling I wasn’t enough.  I know so many other beautiful people out there – who feel this…

We tend to say to ourselves ‘oh Im so stupid’ and the little child in us (sub conscious mind) believes that. We say these things in a joke, do not joke about it.  We think its funny or arragant to think or believe we are amazing, its totally fine to say I AM AMAZING 🙂

We are Enough – You Absolutely Are Enough – I am Enough

I could totally relate to what she was saying here, all we want is Love, Valididation, Praise, knowing we are enough. So tell yourself…

Go Write on your Wall
I  am Enough – You are
Enough.
Write it on your Mirror – I am Amazing, I am Powerful, whatever works for you. I have on my bathroom Mirror “I am Amazing

Record on your phone, Shout it from the Roof tops.  You know, as Marisa says at one point in her talk, magazines and everywhere are constantly telling us, we are Not Enough.. not Slim enough, Not beautiful enough…

We are ALL Enough, we’re Actually far more than Enough.

Its Time We All Believed That…

I am On  a Mission – For Every women (men too)  To realise they are amazing

Come join me and lets help everyone know they are enough – share this blog, 

Shout it from the rooftops !!!

Helen

Come Be The Best Version of Yourself You Can Be

… I am Enough

KNOW You Are Enough….

I BELIEVE In You…

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Inspirational Stories

If I Die Doing Something I love |  I’m Happy

If I die doing something I Love, then Im Happy,  my dad..

This is what My dad always used to say… he was Paragliding well into his 70’s!!

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’, I like them, in fact Im thinking of my next one…ballon ride.. nah thats really not really me

If I die doing something I Love, I’m Happy

If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

 

That stayed with me, I did a sky dive a few years ago -tell you it was just bliss.

I drove my human babies, plus my fur baby to the airport, an hour’s drive from my home in Wellington, New Zealand. It was a beautiful day, I have rarely been as excited. Doing something for ME and having my kids (both human and fur) to watch me.

Yes it was  a tad scary, however so freakin’ exciting too as my instructor jumped out of the plane, but to see that beautiful scenery, to see ‘earth’, well in my case, New Zealand from such a great height and then slow travelling in the air…

and at one point, ‘driving’ myself.. was just amazing and for my kids to be down, on the ground watching me.. was just incredible, and I remember that going through my head, both preparing for it and doing it ‘If I die doing this, I least Im happy.’, have to say – wasn’t an easy thought as three of the people, well my fur baby too, I love most in the world were watching me (my kids and my fur baby)

However you just Have to go with your heart !!I did a bungee -21 years + ago,second year in New Zealand.. wow what a buzz that was…and people will say‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’…

and you can’t..This is Me Just before My Sky Dive… Buzzing Absolutely…
If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

Of course as you do, when its your first time, I was doing a tandem

There are no guarantees in Life…and if you wait for guarantees,you would sit at home all night.. doing nothing

 

So yes this Is Now My Mantra 🙂 and the way I feel about others.

If I die doing something I Love  I’m Happy

You can go tomorrow – crossing the road…

You can drop down dead tomorrow… sorry was that a bit of a shock to you? lol..

I am sorry – however it is the Truth… hence why we just have to Sieze the day,I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence . In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

Let me just emphasize here, Im not saying, Everyone has to sky dive or bungee.. each to their own, what I am saying is Live your Life –

Take Chances….. don’t be afraid, go into everything thinking metarphorically and literally ‘if I die doing something I love, then Im happy’ its such a Freeing way to think and Live.

Grab Those Chances.  Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down,

If I die doing something I Love then I’m Happy

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions.

Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you,

but a shell of yourself.

Listen to your inner voice and go with it.

Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life.

Find a sport that makes you happy.

Most of all, don’t procrastinate.

Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love.. (or maybe not.. they do Love you.. however strangely their way of showing it can be)

That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

 

See more of this post  here

For me, this applies whether you are dying or not……

and if you still have doubts.. then take a look at this…

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.</
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Sourced from  here..

 

So Live your Life..

LOVE your Life…

Its for Living 🙂

Its For Loving… Be YOU

And Spread your Love and Happiness Far and Wide.. and Remember as Long

as You Die doing something you love.. Be happy 🙂

Ensure that WHEN you do go – whether thats tomorrow or 20 years..

that You are Know

You Lived Life to the Fullest

You Loved Yourself Fully

You Loved Others Fully

When You Do All This –

You are Happier and You Attract Everything You Ever Wanted.. its that Easy…

 

I am Passionate About Helping People Like You –

Be The Best You Can and Attract The Life You Want And Deserve, Become Be Deliciously FREE

Accept Yourself…and Whilst you are At it -check out this website, thanks John for this one…Change the world

x Helen

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You are a  Badass at making Money | Jen Sincero

It was Persistence and Determination that gets me and YOU, achieving things in life.

 

You're Badass at Making Money, Jen Sincero
OMG the hoops I jumped through to get this interview

Achieving your goals is About Never Giving Up,  doing whatever it takes,  which is what it took to achieve this amazing interview, You are a Badass at Making Money, with the wonderful Jen Sincero

A couple of years ago, I set myself a challenge of interviewing Law of Attraction experts. It was incredible.  I asked ALOT of people, the ones I got, were amazing and Im so grateful to them all, Pam Grout, Robert G Smith, Jen Sincero, Rui and Melissa Gabriel, Catherine Behan.  It was such a privilege to interview each and every one and hear their stories…

My Gorgeous welsh Grandma would say to me ‘You’re Determined, you are Helen’… Yes I certainly am

It was Persistence and Determination that gets me and YOU, achieving things in life…

I remember years ago, I wasn’t feeling very good about myself, a coach said to me

What Have You Achieved Helen?

.. when I actually asked myself this – rather than focussing on what I hadn’t achieved (I flunked school, whilst my sisters did pretty well)

and then PING’ the lightbulb went off – I had achieved Everything I ever wanted….

  • Passed My Driving Test First Time
  • Become a Nurse (something I wanted to do since the age of 12)
  • Travelled the world (my heart is currently in NZ and the UK atm)
  • Had babies – was absolutely over the moon at this
  • Two years ago, I packed up everything in my house, put it into storage, sold or gave away everything, rented my house out

and Relocated to the Uk ‘for a while’,  not an easy task – Sh*t Scary at times – I can tell you !!

  • Life is About Never Giving Up
  • Life is About Becoming the best version of yourself and attracting all you desire and deserve,
  • Life is About Being a Badass, at making money…

Why Do I want to Make Money?

So I can Give Back and Make A HUGE difference, travel the world.. the list goes on…

and as Jen shares, there is Nothing wrong with Making Money

here’s how I got this amazing interview…

…Not taking No For an Answer…

 

You are a Badass at making Money, Jen Sincero

I discovered Jen and her amazing books You’re a Badass and You’re a Badass at Making money, from a friend, who recommended her. I was hooked from the minute I read the first book.

I initially asked about this interview back in January, they asked me  to fit in with her new book being released.  I agreed, we had a tentative date set up, then the person I was talking to left.

Starting from scratch, they tried to put me back to Square One,  ie ‘if we have time in her Very busy schedule’.  I argued my case,  Persistence, I never gave up….and today it happened…(this time last year)

Ensure you read her books…You are a Badass

and You  are a   Badass at Making Money..

a.. they are two of the best books I’ve ever read

She talks of the human condition, how funny we are,

… how we don’t talk about sex or money and they are both things we all want…

AND want to be good at, however they are ‘taboo’ subjects…

How You Need to Just SLOW DOWN and SHUT UP (Im a WIP) as is Jen apparently..

As I say in the interview, I had her first book on Audio, and she narrates her books, which is just fantastic (I tell her that too !)

I would lie in bed at night, laughing my head off to what she was saying, its so true !!

Anyway – watch the interview, get her books…

Absolutely Amazing – Thanks Jen Sincero

(and NEVER EVER GIVE UP)

Here Ya Go.. In her own Words Jen Sincero

You are a Badass at Making Money

So there you go, my hard worked for interview with Jen Sincero, You are a badass at making money, loved her and the interview…though, I kinda got the impression she was  over being interviewed,  not really surprisingly,this was the end of her tour of Both the US and the UK. I would have been over it – none the less, she’s a gorgeous talented very funny and Boy does she hit the nail on the head in her books

Leave a comment, get the book, come work with me

 

You're a Badass at making Money | Jen Sincero

With Love always

Helen

x

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